BF, I was a worrier. I wasted a lot of time and missed out on much happiness by worrying and attempting to control outcomes, trying to guard against "what-ifs," most of which never happened.
I really have no fear about 'what-if he changes his mind?' What I've gained in this process is confidence in me. If he does change his mind, I'm sure it would be unpleasant but I'll be fine. I can be on my own and be OK, even better than OK.
I strive to be mindful and in the moment. I only have this day, this hour, this moment to deal with.
Good for you. I try to be in the moment lately but it slips away from me, argh. Some work to do....
I think the best thing for me as well was the realization that control really was an illusion and yes, I could be just fine on my own.
