Mr. Bond, I don't understand your point. I left the A behind, but W texted OM on Christmas Eve about a grill he left behind, because she wanted to leave the texts on her phone, let me see them, and make me mad...
These are the words she said.
Jon, I caution you to please be careful. I was so glad when your situation turned around. However, if you aren't careful it can come back around. I do understand what you are saying about someone who has an affair makes a very agregious choice that has a far reaching impact. However, I think what lovethehub is saying is that "Her spreading her legs" is no different than the abandonement she felt perhaps for years. To you the sex thing might be a huge hurdle but for others being abandon or feeling like you don't matter is the pits! And by her telling you she text other man cause she "knew you would see it" bud that's not a mental issue that's someone that still not certain of life with you, so as her husband drop this (from just reading) chest thumping, i'm the alpha male bit, if you truly want reconcilation. It will never fully come to pass without true forgivness. Love your W man, meet her where she is, it's not about right or wrong... I truly hope you hear what everyone is saying it's only out of love.
