"What I can't forgive is someone who justifies every behavior, post-affair, including the affair."
The reality is that you're still making the A all about you. This is something your spouse had to deal with and it is all on them. Some WASs feel the A was needed to see what they had or whatever. Point is if you want to forgive, then it has to be total for whatever reason. If you put conditions on forgiveness, then it's not true forgiveness.
"When she got mad on Christmas Eve, she texted OM about some grill. Why? Because she wanted me to see it on her phone, and be mad. That's someone who has serious mental issues."
No it's someone who understood what she needed to do. You're going to have to understand that the way your W is going to cope with the A is her decision. It's not a "mental" issue.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
