Whether H loves me in the only way he can or whether he does not love me at all and hasn't for a long time, which he was quite articulate and consistent about, is anyone's guess. I take him at his word because his words match the actions I have seen.

That's not to say he'll always be that way, but the way that he is being, is not loving. It's civil. Calling it loving is absurd to me.

Whether he loves his kids is harder to call. He feels an obligation to "love" his kids, as in "of course I love my kids" and he shows up for them and appears to care what they think of him. In that case I would call that love. A limited kind of love, stunted, but loving. I believe that.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.