The divorce was filed in May by him at the insistence of OW. So, I would not need to file. We told our attorneys in November to put the brakes on the divorce. They are expecting an update this week as to how to proceed.
Since I last posted H has ended his affair with OW and they've been no contact for several days. We've been to another therapy session together.
So now we just wait and see if he can truly stay away from her. The therapist has warned pretty strongly that he's extremely vulnerable to her and has to maintain 100% no contact.