No. I'm sorry, but an affair crosses all lines and boundaries, whatever gender it is perpetrating it. I'm not saying it's not something you can recover from, but to try to equate that to saying "unkind words" is the worst sort of stupidity.
I believe my W completely regrets it. She wishes it had never happened, she said thinking about it makes her want to vomit, and she described it as the lowest point in her life. Because, that's truly what an A is, no matter how you try to sling it. I respect my W for admitting that she was, in that moment, a self-described "whore", and she doesn't try to make any fake excuses for it, because there are none.
