I am not saying that an A is justified. I am saying I don't understand why someone can ignore their spouses needs, wants and/or feelings for some many years that the person feels they have no other way to save themselves and then that same person thinks their actions are better than that of the 'cheater'.

My point is that neither behavior is justified and neither person is better/worse than the other.

M 46
H 44
D 12 S 8
M 9 T 11
BD 2/15/13
"Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13
Agree we are 'healing' 7/13
Definitely Piecing 9/13