Thread #2: 5 months after BD. Making it one day at a time.
The video is the song we do at school with the kids and if you can sing and dance to that without your mood getting better then you need to play it again!
Lots of things are hitting H all at once: his car broke down, he's had to take off work because he can't afford gas, he lost his second job, he has mice, and he can't afford food (so he says but he's meaning fast food. He hasn't figured out bread and peanut butter are good)and he can't pay for the divorce. Then I found out today D needs to go to the orthodontist for a consult (not enough perm teeth to get braces) and he added that to his list of things that keep him down.
So here I sit on the curb watching him spiral, hoping it gets bad enough to hit bottom sooner than later, praying he can get it together when he does. All the while I'm fixing my home up how I want it, feeling better, GALing and keeping things as normal as possible for D. I'm sure there are lots of ups and downs to come so I'm keeping my happy song on replay and dancing my heart out!
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
Kate: D told my supervisor at work about them and she has laughed for days! Her favorite thing to say is 'God won't bless him acting like this' and when something else happens she says 'see'.
Pretty good day today! Work went well and I'm home now helping D with math homework. We've gotten past the attitude she gives me and she's quietly working away. Just floating along doing what needs to be done, holding it all together. Hopefully things will turn around for me soon on the job front and I can get in a school system so if he ever files (and can pay for) the divorce I can have insurance and better pay in case he loses his main job also.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
Well tonight D was talking about H's neighbor that has a D her age. She's cooking for H and bringing it to him every night. I was wondering how he was supposedly not able to buy food but he's not loosing weight, guess he has played the pity card and she bought it. I had wondered when they all went skating last weekend if they were dating or just going together because of the girls.
Is it common to have 2 OW? LOL I'm pretty sure she's an EA if anything but it sure is strange.
Plans this weekend is to paint a bedroom and bathroom. Not very exciting but it's going to rain all weekend so D and I aren't going much of anywhere.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
I guess your H is friendly with single women, just like my. Yes, I think it is possible to have multiple OWs, they just could be potential OWs. If he is like my H, he is looking for any kind of attention, doesn’t matter if it is going to be serious or not. I think Portia invented this term of her SO “shopping for OW”. I think this is the case with my H. Could it be something like that for your H as well?
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
BF- I think OW1 is about 2 hours away and the lack of money to visit might be putting a crimp in that relationship. She wants to travel and such, well H is having problems managing money enough to get to work! I'm sure POW2 is so he can eat and have someone to watch D on his weekends so he's able to do what he wants.
Bklyn- don't be too impressed, the bathroom is tiny! LOL
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
Well, I haven't done much other than clean a bit and watch D figure out her Loom Band thing. I'm amazed that this ADHD child has sat for 2 hours making pandas and flowers by looking at you tube videos. She's needed encouragement but not a lot of help from me! She needs something she can be as good at as the other girls in class.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
Well I sent H an email about D having a reaction to a food so he would mention it to the doctor when he takes her. Told him I was cutting the food out even though the allergist said it was ok for her to have since she had hives and had to use her inhaler. The response? That he'd make sure to tell them and not give it to her at his house. Then he added, I wonder how this started....we may never know. Ummm....it started about the second time she ever had the food, at around a year old, so 8 years ago? It's like this is something he's never heard of or been dealing with for 8 years or so.
This stuff is crazy.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
