As an update to this now that I'm out of moderation... We are kind of on an upswing, although, when the D word came up (by him) the other day, I asked if it was not an if but a when for him - he said he didn't know.

He's started anti-depressants this week, and I feel like he's in a better mood. He's been home every night this week, hanging out as a family. He's still sleeping in the den - that doesn't seem like it's going to change anytime soon.

I really just don't know where to go from here. Not sure how to LRT when he lives here and is wanting interaction with us.

I am doing things for me - working on being less negative, meditating, journaling, working out.

Anyone have any thoughts?


Me, 39. H, 35.
3 boys - 13, 11, 9 - 1 w/ multiple disabilities
BD Dec 2012
Sort of a quasi in-house sep Nov 2013