Wif wants Divorce, I do Not 2

[Fartiltre]

It's almost midnight where I am so I am soon of to bed since I have to take my daughter to school in the morning.

BH, I am not totally up to speed on your sit but IMO you should read through your own threads from start to end right now and then start applying the advice given to you from VETs.

One of the things stated in DR by MWD is that she can’t tell you what will work but she can tell what won’t work and I believe that what you have been and are doing isn’t working. You need to change the way you look at this!

You have been going through what many of us LBHs go through but NOW is the time to end this. Your W is IMO running and she is hurt. You need to back off!

The people in here and the VETs that have advised you during the last 6 weeks or so, know what they are talking about and to be totally honest – you don’t! I was in that exact spot 10 months ago!
Apply the advice given to you and start doing it now!

- Back of your W and give her time and space.
- Stop searching for the trick/magic wand that will solve this instantly. It doesn’t exits and neither W friends nor your MIL will either. They might be able to pressure W back to you – but you do not want that!! You want W to come back – because she wants to HERSELF!
- Stop reading marriage books! Focus on DR and DB – study them and when you have done that then start reading books about subjects you want to be better at. Being a man, a farther, a better human being, a better listener…what ever.
- Do the 180s! You have prior written about your flaws. Focus on these and change in these areas if you feel like it!

But first of all – BACK OFF – you are pushing her further away! She needs her own time now. That is the only thing you should give to her: Time and space! Leave her alone for now.

Study and live Sandi2s rules.
All have been said before – DO IT!

…and keep on posting!
We are here to support you and you will get guidance in here.

All the best!
F