I'm confused. No contact then a lot of contact-more than what has been. It feels weird. And I'm not sure what DB I'm actually doing. Rereading the books.
I understand your situation. I waffle & get weak/insecure when W doesn't respond or doesn't respond the way I'd like. As you know, it's best to stay clear of your spouse when in this compromised state as usually we wind-up worsening the situation. It's very hard, because we want to tell them everything we've already told them a thousand times before. Try to keep focusing on yourself & GALing.
I'm in a bind because if I disengage, GAL/DB she sees it as me 'moving on', and if I pursue, she feels pressured. It's a shitty pickle to be in.
Me: 46 Ex: 38 Married: 10 Together: 12 No Children Separated (again): 09/06/13 Divorced: 02/27/15
Well W and I were texting most of the day. Learning more about the school she wants to go to, diploma, etc. Good things. Then out of nowhere..
"Have fun in your life. I hope it's great. My mom loves you and hates me so that's great. I just got an ultimatum. So now I'm out of the house. I'm done. I have NOTHING TO MY FUC%ING NAME. Take care. "
Talk to MIL. She said that if W is going to shack up with OM then get her stuff out of the house.
They are going to talk about OM and our marriage. This seems like it may be damaging and so much has already happened. Idk if it'll do any good. MIL wants us to try MC and see. I want to but it's up to W. And if shes feeling pressure I don't think she will want to. Or even try with anything.
She knows that MIL is against affairs and this guy isn't good. She knows my feelings and that her mom wants us together, doesn't agree with what she's doing, how she left, etc. It's possible she feels we have. Idk what to do.
