Me 14 months on, affair confirmed, someone new?

[hotwheelsaust]

Wonka, thank you for the reply. I will try to answer the best as I can.
I suppose I should have put all the talk up, as it would have made more sense of the last text. One of the questions W asked is was I looking at giving her the unit. Where based on her agreement she wanted to walk away from both properties. That is why the "remember this is your agreement" quote.
In saying that I do like your change to the sentence.

With regards to the coffee request not working out? Well it is quite simple, unless she initiates, then nothing will happen, simple as that. She hasn't agreed to anything I have offered over the last 14 months. That is why her usual first reply back is why? what do we need to talk about? I suppose it is her way of getting ready for any discussion.

W is just taking the personal side out of everything and has since BD. I don't know what else I can do or try. Even the coach got to the point of not being able to offer much more (the coach was great by the way).

My comment on "not giving up, no matter what you do or have done" was mostly based on the affair that she doesn't want anyone to know about. It was in a way, letting her know that the guilt (mindreading) doesn't need to mean she can no longer come back.

So back to the first text I sent, what could I do differently? What am I doing wrong? Am I missing something about how W's reaction would be from that text?