T2, interesting question. I'm not sure.

He's told me numerous times that his issues are HIS to fix and nobody else's business.

He has said that he will "never" attend counseling....has said this for all 15 years of our M.

Also, in my eyes, he just doesn't SEE how screwed up his childhood was. He makes fun of how nice my childhood was....says my family is just "faking" it....that no family gets along as well as mine does, etc.

He really does NOT see how messed up he is due to childhood stuff.