WBW- I agree... If you are not sure what to do with h then just leave it alone and live your life as you are. Focus on you and your life. The other stuff will fall in to place when it's time. I do this not just for the sitch with H but for other big questions as well such as if I will move or not. You can do this. Just focus on you and be read to respond, not react, when and if the time comes.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home