2old, I am in agreement with all the replies here. I also understand where you are coming from, especially when I am kinda in the same boat. Having a WAS who you have lived with and communicated (whether correctly or not) with for so many years, just up and leave, with very little communication (in whatever form) over the time of the sitch, is very hard to deal with. Your sitch has even less communication than mine. And I struggle with that, so I can only imagine how you must feel. I also understand fully your question of not getting the answers you want. And sometimes these answers don't really have a question leading up to them. Why and how can, what we perceived as a loving spouse, just up and go, without looking back? In some ways, I am in the same time frame as you are: feeling there is no hope for a future together, feeling there is nothing else I can do, and in all honesty thinking what is the point of waiting for them to do the divorce. Lets just get it over so I (we) can move on. The divorce isn't a last ditch effort to get them back. It is just finishing off the loose ends. I have a friend who is waiting for his wife to do the divorce papers, they do not communicate and haven't for many years, he isn't hoping she will come back. He is living his own life, but the divorce is still that loose thread, she left him something like 12 years ago. I couldn't go through life with that on my mind, so I understand where you are 2old.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
