From my vantage point based on what is reported here, it seems to be that both you and H have the need to feel "needed." Right now, it looks like there's a stalemate between the two of you and no one is willing to be the first to go 'vulnerable' because you have these internal fears tripping you two up. In a relationship, there cannot be a pair of "takers" or it will all go south. There has to be some fluid flow of "give" and "take" between the two partners. Right? What do you think?
