Just curious if you have dated at all after your D? By asking this, i am wondering if your XH has ever had a chance to miss you? It's not my place to judge anyone's sitch, but if he wants to hang out with you yet still continue to date other women, how do you cope? Is this helping you move on? Some days i still have that hope that me and my XW will get back together, but that seems to be fading a bit as time goes on. Unfortunately for people like us, there is no set time limit on hope. Are we supposed to get out and date other people, or do we need to wait until our XH/XW start a different committed relationship with someone else at which point we start looking in a different direction? Essentially it feels like we are being held hostage, waiting for them to make a move either way so we can finally move forward and plan for a future with our without them. That part right now is by far the worst part for me. The limbo if you will. I still feel it every day, and have felt it since the day i got ILYB.
Some will say that it's way too early to begin dating. How do we or they know? It's up to each individual to decide what is in their best interest and whether or not they use the things they have learned so they can avoid going through anything like this ever again.
So i guess if you can, i would like to hear back from you regarding what it is you feel inside of you that is making you hold on to that hope. I have held on to it for what seems like forever, and i just don't seem to get any answers. No one is lurking over my shoulder whispering to me that it is time to move on, but for how long must we wait? How long before that new path is revealed to us?
Hang in there!
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13
