Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

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I think she was venting, you have no control over how she sees your actions. She is allowed to be angry, doesn't mean you have to agree with it.

Were you a selfish, self-centered jerk? It's OK to admit that if you were, We have to do that moral inventory before we can begin to fix things.

It takes a long time for people close to us to believe the changes we're making. Most of us have promised to change in the past and it didn't stick. Changes have to be consistent over time, lots of time. This is not a microwave process.

A positive is that she's seeing some changes on her own. If you can I would dial down your family telling her how much you've changed. Let her come to that conclusion on her own.

This was good

"well I also have tentative plans and we might have to get a Sitter.

as long as it's the truth.

So this morning I told her that I will find a sitter for this weekend.

and this is good. have you ever gotten a sitter before? I mean you personally taken responsibility for it? That's quite a 180 and again, taking responsibility for you and being an active involved father.

I don't think it was as bad as you thought, it just made you feel crappy. Feelings pass and don't need to be acted on.