Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[OneDay]

Your a Selfish, Selfcenter Jerk! You always have been and you always will be. Its just who you are and you will never change! (Those were the words I heard last night)

Heres the whole story including the lead up.
I asked WAW if she had any plans for Wed. and she replied no. I then told her I had "plans" and asked if she would be home when my Mom dropped the boys off.(mom always has them on Wednesday) She said yes, thats fine. So I go out to bible study, then stopped by my moms for a bit. When I arrived home she was just hopping into bed. I had to get some things out of the room and WAW said "Oh' by the way I have "plans" this Saturday Night! Just wanted to give you a heads up." I then replied "well I also have tentative plans and we might have to get a Sitter. As soon as I said that she flipped. She replied with "You just had an entire weekend to yourself camping, and you got to go out tonight as well. I've been busting my butt working and taking care of the kids. I deserve to go and have some ME time and I dont think thats asking too much, and Im going out this Saturday."I replied back with "Thats fine, Im not saying you can't go out we will just have to get a sitter"

We went back and forth a few times and I said "You know this is not easy on me either" She said its never what I wanted either. I then came back with "well I can have a life a too" Thats when it all came out. She stared crying and went off. She said Your a Selfish, Self-centered Jerk and you haven't changed one bit! Your family and other say how your changing and I can see some change, but I know you, and know your heart. Your selfish and always have been. Its just who you are and nothing is any different now! You've never cared about me and only yourself. You might be fooling your family, the boys, your friends etc with your "changes", but your not fooling me. Your looking out for yourself, just like you've always have for years, and nothing is any different now.

She continued on for awhile telling me how awful and selfish I was for coming back home. Especially after all I put her through, then how I changing the sleeping arrangements, the amount I go out. and splitting of the check, to her having no money and how this was all my fault. There was nothing I could do at this point but listen. The only thing I said while she was venting was and occasional Ok or I see.

So this morning I told her that I will find a sitter for this weekend. She said Okay and walked away.

I don't know if any of what Im doing is right. It feels wrong for me going out GAL. She see's all this as selfish. I kinda feel like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. I know everyone says to GAL and detach, But I think its pushing her further and further away. She thinks Im just doing what ever the heck I want, whenever the heck I want to do it. I've mentioned this in an earlier post too.

What do you guys think?