Maybe it should be "I choose me.". When you are in the middle of the field, it is so easy to get lost with all of the emotions flying around. Sure there is some bits of love there but so hard to notice when things have crumbled so much.
I used to be a flight attendant and I remember doing the oxygen demo and always thinking I would put the mask on my child first. It took until my divorce for me to really get it. If you put the mask on your child, great but they can't help you and maybe not even help themselves . Put the mask on yourself, then you can take care of those you need to.
Also good to remember that the relationship between your h and the kids is just that, between them. Let them navigate that. If you step in, chances are your h will say you are putting words in their mouths or you are manipulating them. Just better to not go there from the start.
Blessings, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
