An End/Beginning of Year Update

[MrBond]

"WRT people posting here saying they misunderstood the importance of sex, yes I've seen that but it's usually not in the context of a completely sexless marriage. What I read more often is that people withhold sex because they are resentful, angry, feel unappreciated or otherwise are not having their needs met. I understand that -- in the context of a failing relationship sex is not owed as an obligation."

In the 5 years I've been here, I've seen many stories where the LBS just didn't see sex as being a big thing. And again, you're confusing "withholding" with just not seeing it as a priority. Withholding is done on purpose and yes, in those cases, it's due to some past resentment. However, there are quite a few cases where the spouse just doesn't see sex as a priority and then they're surprised when their spouses leave them. Sometimes it's because the LBS is LD and the other is HD and sometimes its for other reasons.

How many times have you heard married people (especially men) think that they would get more sex after they get married, and are surprised when it doesn't happen? That's just the way some things are. Of course those things can change, but these scenarios as well as the other stories on here won't change until the person decides to make a change.