" I think it is deeper than that. There is tremendous loss in a Divorce. I think the anger on both sides stems from feeling that loss and projecting the blame on the spouse. "
But in your case the resentment started before D was in play. Like you having her kicked out of church and then talking bad about her in front of the kids. Yes I get that she was talking to the OM in front of them, but there are other ways to handle the situation. Your kids think the world of both you and your W and think that both of you are infallible. You don't need to have them choose sides (and again, I do understand that you aren't actively doing that) by making comments about your W even on these boards. That resentment that you think you might be hiding from them may actually be ringing loud and clear to them.
Again, I'm just strictly talking about your kids and not you or your W. They
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
