An End/Beginning of Year Update

[MrBond]

"I think MWD wrote a book about it because it's not acceptable to deny sex to your spouse assuming that they are meeting your needs in the marriage. I don't know what information you're assuming I haven't read."

I was wondering if you hadn't read SSM as well as other books on the subject.

When you say that it's "not acceptable to deny sex", you're seeing it from one POV. To the other's POV, it's perfectly acceptable. And just to clarify, there is a difference between DENIAL of sex and just not wanting sex. Couples who argue with one another DENY sex to each other. In a SSM, oftentimes the LD spouse or the one who doesn't want sex just doesn't see the importance of it. Again, go through the other peoples' posts. You'll see many of those stories there. And if you asked them if they felt that they were denying their spouse sex, they'll probably tell you that they weren't "denying" it to them. They just didn't see that as important.

It doesn't mean that there is something mentally wrong with them. They just don't feel like it. But it doesn't mean that they don't love their spouses. They just choose to exhibit it in other ways. So it isn't just as simple as lying down and taking it. Might as well get a hooker to do that for you.