Tuesday Me: If convenient can I Skype the kids tonight? W: I've got a lot on this week tbh. I can't guarantee a time or day so if it's ok with you, the boys will just see you at 3pm Friday when you collect them. Me: Okay. If by the off chance it is convenient 4-6ish one day can you let me know? Do you want the cats bringing this Friday?
W: I've had time to think about the cats and I'm worried they are going to spray all over the house. I am prepared to try and have them here on the condition that if they don't settle by Sunday you take them back. Also need their vaccination books and had their jabs within the year for the cattery. Me: Are you saying I need to have had them vaccinated? W: Are they not? Me: No, I'm struggling to afford to feed them. W: It cost £7 a month for a large bag of dry cat food. 35g a day each. I'm sure if you can afford to take (friend) out for dinner then you can afford to feed two cats. Priorities were never your strong point! Me: The credit card we took out 22 months ago to pay for the windows has come out of it's promotional period. It's an extra £120 a month on top of the extra CSA iis taking off me. I can't afford to feed them anything. W: How have you funded your nights out & your new girlfriend. Maybe you should start selling stuff like I've had to to cover my bills. And can I also remind you that you never paid me money for 3 months...saving yourself £900. Maybe you should have used that money to pay off a chunk of your credit card that paid for the windows to your house that you live in! Ask (friend) for some rent money. Me: You have been on vacation twice in the last two months. I was offered a free week away but had to turn it down because I can't afford to pay for my own food. The credit card changed in October so it's more like £540 which doesn't make much of a dent in £11000. I've had the cats for 18 months now. I don't want them, I don't want to spend money I don't have on them and they desreve to be loved by someone who loves cats and that is never going to be me. W: Remortage the house to clear your debts if you're struggling that much! Me: If I set up the remortgage will you agree to it? W: The first vacation I never paid for. The balance of the second was paid for by Christmas money. I had to sell my laptop and take out a credit card just to feed us while you were out partying. W: Yes I'll agree to it but I want a half decent offer of a payout and I'll take my name off it and settle for a quick divorce. Me: What do you see as a half decent pay out? W: You tell me? I'm looking to get back into work within the next few months. I don't always want to live in a rented house. I need a decent amount that I can save towards for a deposit for a real house for the boys & I to live in. Me: £4000 and we keep your car out of it. W: I've sold the car. Couldn't afford it Me: The car or it's monetary value is a joint asset and like I said, keep that out of it i.e. you keep the asset in whatever form. Me: How do you get the kids to nursery? W: We fly! W: If that's the case then your shares and dividends will also be a joint asset...as well as everything in the house including the equipment under the stairs. As well as tv's, computers, projector and anything else you appear to have because after all I left with nothing. I have absolutely nothing to lose so carry on. Me: Carry on what? I'm not trying to be funny. Your car is the only other major asset because it's wot=rth four figures. You want a quick divorce and an offer and I gave you one. W: You're the one wanting the quick divorce. I'm in no hurry! 6k and we have a deal. Me: I will get back to you. W: How much are you able to remortage it? Me: It was enough to cover mortgage, loan and overdraft and be left with the credit card. Instead of covering the overdarft I will use that for the divorce settlement. Will probably have to start again now as that was October.
Wednesday W: It kills me to say this but I've had time to think and I will not be taking the cat's. I can not take on 3 cats and 2 kids all on my own. I'm learning to stop taking on more than I can handle and I'd be kidding myself if I think I can manage any more than I already have on my plate. Me: Right W: As I'm changing my name back just to let you know I'll be registering the kids under (her maiden name) too but keeping their legal name as (my name). Me: What does tha mean? W: The kids will be known as (her name) to everyone. W: Nursery, school, doctors, friedns etc. Me: Why? W: Don't want the kids having a different surname from me. Me: That makes two of us. Me: How do you think this is going to work with the kids? They are young but they know thier own names. Me: By law a child must be registered by their legal name at school and doctors. W: Re read my message! Me: I don't think it's fair on the kids. W: The kids won't even know any different. Their life is here. We are a family unit and it's just easier this way going forward.
Later in the day: W: (Pic) of some autism course. W: Course I think you should attend. W: I'm in this other course that finishes at 3pm. I need to know asap if you want to attend. Me: No thanks, I can't make it. W: Just another course you are not prepared to attend.
My shares are worth very little and my dividends aren't actually paying anything. She took a TV and a laptop. She has sold her car which in theory was half mine. My laptop is owned by the company.
I understand her wanting the same name as the kids. Looking into it I can take her to court and prevent the "known as" name from happening. I plan to ask my L about it today. She lives in so much of her bubble she doesn't have a clue. Their passports and official documenst will have their original surname. Thats how they will be known when they are with me. Poor S4 won't understand, as if he hasn't got enough on his plate. Makes me so angry!!
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
