Newbie needs help:husband left Saturday

[RealityTrip]

DX, I'm sorry for what you are experiencing. It's so very hard and gut wrenching to say the least. Everyone is giving you great advice with the best intentions from their own experience.

The road seems overwhelming but take it one step at a time. You will find your way.

My humble advice, read DR and DB. Read other threads here. Focus on the 37 rules, come up with one GAL activity a week just for you, and think of what 1 or 2 180's would look like based on your knowledge of your marriage pre-BD and implement them now..

There is a lot of advice to get a lawyers advice. You really should. Even in my sitch, as soon as W moved out and in with xOW, I acted quickly to separate finances and protect myself.

Now the affair has ended and W moved home to try to reconcile BUT she blew through a lot of money that xOW helped her spend! My paycheck, benefits, 401K, credit cards were safe from that.

This is a hard time. The hardest thing I think some of us ever go through. Be gentle with yourself but clear and purposeful in your actions. You're very early into this journey and the surrealness and shock of it all can still tap you on the shoulder from time to time. Just know that it gets better... If you stay focused on you.

Sending you love and light. ((((HugsToo))))