One giant leap forward! - Part 9

[T1000]

T, it is wonderful when another female friend comes into your life. All of our worries and stresses disappear, but importantly our self esteem improves. We start realising maybe it wasn't us, or at least it wasn't all of us, that was the problem.
Well done on the last week and best of luck with the new friend.

I wish all my stress disappeared but she's always on the other end of a phone

Thanks HWA!

[T1000]

T, man your W is a real piece of work! Demanding that you provide screen shots to "prove" that you sent texts? What are we, 12? Unbelievable! You're handling her continued craziness pretty well, just try not to get drawn into the vortex!

Congrats on the new lady!

Thanks AS!

[T1000]

How do I make sure I don't make the same mistakes? Am I defective? Or has W just bludgeoned me with her b*tch stick too many times? A bit of both?

No, I sure don't believe you're defective! You M a crazy b!tch, what can I say?

I remember when I first caught up reading your thread, and I thought, "Man, open your mouth and show her you can make decisions yourself and your boys(that may not necessarily line up with what she wants or likes)". I think what made me see red so much was how easily she seemed to manipulate you. That year you were acting like a puppet, and staying at her place when she would say okay...or she sent you home with your tail between your legs b/c she wasn't horny enough, would cause me to see the entire rainbow! (ha)

I want to encourage you to check yourself, (and maybe even ask your brother to tell you if he notices you falling back into old patterns) and if you ever start getting back into that rut where you are like a passive robot who acts on somebody else's command. In fact, don't allow it to get to the "rut" stage b/c by then there will be problems.

I don't think I can even imagine what kind of number she did on your self confidence. But you've worked really hard to overcome and climb up to where you are now. Learn from the past R, but don't let it prevent you from moving into another one. I see how it could make you leery, but you are too big of a catch to just let you run around loose.

I know she can still get to you with that mouth of hers. Heck, she gets to me, too! I think you handle it better than me. (ha)

I have come to admire and respect you, T, and I'll have to say that when you are ready to leave the board, I will sure miss you around here. However, whenever you aren't busy GAL, you could be a lot of help to others on the board.

Thanks Sandi thats means a lot me.

Something I noticed in my new friend is that if she wants affection and at that moment I don't happen to be giving it her she will ask or come and get it. Not stew for hours and then start an argument about it.
It's not that I don't want it, it's just not on my mind right then.
It seems like such a normal and healthy way to handle it and the opposite of how my W handled it.

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