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Originally Posted By: juliegayle
Then he suggested I go out and check my tires and then locked me out. He is insane.


Please be very careful. He may turn violent. I knew someone who was being physically abused and it started out with verbal threats, then he started locking her out of the house. Then it turned to physical violence and then death threats. Thank goodness she finally left before he could follow through on the death threats. Every step of the way she kept saying it was a fluke, that he wasn't really like that, that he deserved another chance, etc. etc. Talk to a lawyer ASAP, they will give you direction on how to document this behavior and when it may be appropriate to call the police and file a report.


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57
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Oh my gosh that man is dense. I have been saying for months we needed to work out a schedule of who was responsible for s on what nights and he kept resisting. After the nightmare llast night I brought it up again this morning. I told him right now we were both obviously too emotional to have a casual arrangement and we needed a more structured schedule. Just now I called to tell s I had to work late. H asked for clarification on schedule idea. He asked if it meant that I wouldn't come home on his nights. I said not necessarily but I wouldn't need to rush home. He said "so on your nightd I can do whatever I want and on my nights you can do whatever you want?" I mean is it really such a difficult concept?

I also tried 4 lawyers today and they all wanted 200 to 300 for a consult so I will need to save up just for that.


Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15
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Originally Posted By: juliegayle

I also tried 4 lawyers today and they all wanted 200 to 300 for a consult so I will need to save up just for that.


Focus on that.

He will do what he will do.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Keep calling and saving the $. This is an important step. It will empower you with knowledge. I have been thinking about you! Stay strong and protect yourself!


Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
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I don't know where you live but have a yardsale (maybe not if you're anywhere but the southwest cool

Put some stuff on craigslist.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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