Maybe I'm hard to offend or maybe I missed it but this all just seemed like a productive discussion to me. Adinva' s post supported RockJC' s point IMO:

Originally Posted By: RockJC
Personally, I just believe there has to be something deeper; Some resentment toward her husband, something physical or some self esteem issue which creates such a conflict.

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015