[quote=melissag] I am PISSED. Somehow H can make a unilateral decision to renege on our deal; to do his own selfish thing, then to take his (our) money and my (our) children with him. When I have given up my career, and my priority and focus all these years have been my kids. It seems so messed up - he gets the benefit of having worked these years, and he still gets the kids half the time (theoretically), whereas I get much less of the financial benefit of his working, but keep the burden of my not working; AND I lose half the time with my kids. I can't work out how this is in the least bit fair. /quote]
The kids need him as much as he needs them. Time with them can't count as a "thing you get" and lumped in with money. I know how you feel, I thought that way too but that's just that. They need their dad and if you try to limit that, they'll just grow up fantasizing about life with him and blame you for everything wrong with their life.
He absolutely needs to support you financially and support you if you need to take classes to kickstart your career but the kids have absolutely nothing to do with this aspect.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
