Limbo is the new normal

[slow_it_down]

H called to say his mom is coming tomorrow. I'm so angry at him and her that I could break something. I work full time, manage all 3 kids on my own and I take 100% care of our S, letting my H have minimal responsibility to come and go as he pleases working his time with S in around his work schedule, gym, hunting etc and yet neither him nor his mom can respect my schedule when I tell them this is the worst possible week for her to visit.

I texted her in a last ditch effort to plead my case in a non confrontational matter. I'm so tempted to say "I already bend over backwards for your son, you can't just show up without considering my wishes" but I know that will do no good.

If I were in DBING mode I'd be validating that it [censored] for him that she's coming... And supporting him over the next few days when he's frustrated with her. Instead I want to drop S off with them, turn off my phone, and disappear for a few days. Not entirely rational, especially bc I'm still nursing the baby, but I want nothing to do with him right now. If our S wasn't so young and dependent on being near me this wouldn't be such a big deal because they could easily take S for awhile without it interrupting my schedule for the upcoming days. Now I'm going to have to bend my entire life, which is hectic enough as is, around them. So frustrated he didn't do more to get her to reschedule!