An End/Beginning of Year Update

[MrBond]

"There is nothing sexist, or offensive about my comment. It is simply a fact."

No it was extremely offensive and it IS NOT a fact.

Something is offensive when there is someone offended by an action or a comment. Your comment offended me and I'm willing to bet others will also be offended. Therefore your statement was offensive.

There's nothing personal about it. You seem to see every comment that you see as contradictory to what you believe as a personal attack. It isn't. Even in your own thread, people had posted to you trying to show you your W's POV so that you could at least improve communication with her. You didn't listen and yet still wonder why she holds a grudge against you. Again, not a personal attack, just an observation.

The comment regarding your Ds was an example to show how it might be offensive. And truthfully if you wouldn't expect your W to do something that you don't expect your kids to do also in their marriages.

Go through many of the posts here on this board. It's chock full of WASs AND LBSs who thought that not having sex wasn't a big deal. They didn't have resentments or hang ups. That's just what they thought. People's attitudes and physical and mental capacities change over time. Just because YOU don't understand it doesn't mean that it doesn't happen.

"I am saying that when you express a deeply felt need to someone who loves you that they will "Want" to take care of your need."

Not necessarily. Someone can still love you but not want to do something. Say, for example, you have a thing for bondage or having sex in a car or whatever. If the other person doesn't feel comfortable with it (and this includes even casual sex) they aren't going to do it. Doesn't mean they love you less.

"Taking care of your need will bring them Joy."

Not for everyone. Especially when they don't like it.

"They will desire to do it. It will be no "Duty" at all."

In a perfect world. But life isn't perfect.

"It is simply a fact. For a healthy adult, the physical act of sex is a trivial thing.

Also offensive. That's just YOUR POV.