"32. Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because he/she is hurting and scared"
Pampkin, I doubt your kissing some guy 9 years ago is really the reason your H is unhappy. He's probably using it as an excuse to justify what he's doing. Read DR. Read Sandi's rules. Work on yourself while giving your H time and space. Your H is absolutely right when he says this:
"He said that R will not happen in this marriage, but if we were to R, it will be a new "US"."
Your old M is dead and gone, never to return. But that's good! It didn't work for him and probably not for you either. Your goal is to make yourself into the spouse only a fool would leave, and hopefully that will attract him back to work on a NEW R with a new you and new him.
