Wif wants Divorce, I do Not 2

[melissag]

BH, your W's father is in the hospital right now, and I am sure that is what she is focused on. I highly doubt she is putting as much thought into her responses and the tone of them as you are.

I know that you are hurting right now but it seems to me that, instead of allowing your W to take care of her father, and being there for her if she needs/wants you, you are focusing on your own agenda and need for some sort of reassurance.

You are not going to get this right now. You are just driving yourself insane and piling on the hurt and confusion. Why make it worse for yourself?

It has been said a million times on this board, and I know it is not easy to do, but you need to focus on YOU. Right now you are focusing on her and overanalyzing every little thing she says and does - even in her time of crisis! STOP. Go do something for yourself. Let your W know that you are hoping her father is well soon, and that you are there for her if she needs you. Then go do your own thing and give her the space she wants. If she is interested in taking to you, she will let you know, I promise.

What GAL activities are you doing? Who do you have to talk to? What kinds of self improvement are you working on? What about home improvement? Work? Focus on all of those things - that is productive and will help you feel better at the end of the day. Obsessing over your W is making you feel worse, and poking at her to get some sort of reaction you are looking for is making both of you feel worse.