Goodness, your SIL has some issues! Her message seemed like she was in the middle of a conversation in her head and only bits of it made it out. I am sorry you have to deal with that. Try not to let it sting, even though I know that is hard.
I agree with the others, I would answer this one with silence as well. But, if it continues, I would respond with a please do not e-mail me anymore and if you do again, I will be required to take more formal action. If I recall correctly, you are not in the States and laws and options are very different in the States than they are elsewhere. It may be that a harassment suit is not available to to you or that it is quite a stringent test. At least if you convey this to SIL, she may stop. Perhaps check with your lawyer as to your options and an appropriate response, if the e-mails continue.
In the end, you want to make sure not to jepardize any of your interests for that turkey.
As for H, what a trout! Again, I agree with the others, might as well ask him what he is missing and get it over with. Besides, take the high road and let him stew. The fact that he is begrudging his son keeping some of his old stuff just proves how mucked up his mind is. My W is such a loser, looking out for my kids! Yep, that'll work.
Try to keep your sense of humour, WR, even when it is hard. Especially when things are hard.
