What else I'm not noticing? XW is not very clear on my faults and character flaw. Do I need to dig deeper?
Not necessarily. It's not all about what the LBS did wrong, much of it is about the WAS and their unhappiness, and their blaming all that unhappiness on the LBS. We talk about doing 180's because it's an opportunity for us to become better people, but the WAS has just as much work to do as we do if not more. They have to learn the LBS is not why they're unhappy, and they have to face their internal demons and learn and grow from it.
Remember that your 180's are for you, not your W. They may attract her back eventually, but they may not. If they don't it doesn't mean they're not working, it just means she's not addressing her issues.
The WAS needs to pursue their own journey separate from the LBS. Sometimes they just refuse to make that journey and go through life bitter and unhappy bouncing from one R to the next. There's no predicting what they'll do. So make yourself the spouse only a fool would leave and be content that you've done what you could do.
