Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

MrBond,

Thanks again for your comments. I have read DR a couple times now. I just have a hard time trying to implement things in the book 100% of the time. I have been doing some things from the book, I feel pretty well, could I be doing a better job Absolutely!!

Im not surprised the C told me I am a rescuer just didn't think of it in quite those terms.

Let me ask you though. Is making sure my credit rating stays at a good level by paying bills that we have that she obviously cant help with wrong? I know that 50% of these bills are her responsibility but if she cant pay them the credit card companies don't care they still need paid. How could I handle this in a different way so that I don't look like a safety net?

I also understand that she owes me nothing as far as owning up to her part in the M failing. I guess it is just the "fix it" mentality that everyone talks about on here that I have a real problem with. The C also said that W is a reactor and not a proactor. She told me to just observe what is going on and not act so much. That is where the comment comes from about me filing for D. I have been observing more and trying to take things in before just jumping to conclusions or mind reading.By observing what the W is doing or saying it leads me to think a certain way sometimes. I know this is bad but it is hard not to do.

I do feel for others that have it far worse than me. I have to remember that sometimes a bad sitch for me would be something someone else is hoping for.

Thanks again you are a big help and I appreciate it!!