Please see a L asap. Just to learn your rights. You do not have to file anything or even tell your h if you don't want.
But the "knowledge is power" thing is true. You'll feel less afraid and less trapped. A sham with little ones will have a chance at staying home a bit longer but if not, your h is about to have a LOT MORE time with his kids and not with you to bail him out.
See, he may not recall them, but the had the kids and they ARE obligations. I'ts much harder today for a man to disappear and not have to pay any CS if he was ever employable....
the legal realities will frighten your h more than you b/c hey, he's in the "extra" apartment he wants to fix up...See the L and start protecting yourself.
Not to be punitive but when it comes to money that is food from your child's mouth. You don't really have the right to decline any assistance if it benefits them. They need you to represent their interests, as well as yours.
Good luck and again, you do NOT have to "do" a thing but meet a L and ask some questions. Many Give free half hour consults. Write your questions down first, like the 3 most important fears you have.
Are you in a state with a city named Denver"? Hmm, Come to think of it, there's a DBer here by that name you may want to look up.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
