AS thanks for the compliment, it certainly feels like i did this outside my comfort zone, there is a bit of a feeling i am papering over some fairly big cracks. Last night i brought up that my parents always pick the kids up from school on a Thursday to which she replied that wont be happening for a while, i wanted to explore this a little as i see this as punishment for both the kids and my parents when we both agreed over the weekend that nothing bad had happened and i was keen to labor the point back then are we all happy with the discussion and if not lets thrash out some more. I get the feeling that she still thinks there is more to this but isnt prepared to discuss further, she mentioned that either my daughter is lying or trying to punish her?. She is a very protective mother by nature and i know both our families dont get the time with the grandkids they probably would like and this seems to have pushed her back, it will be a slightly difficult convo with my parents to tell them Thursday is off but i think i will just tell them the truth. I did say that now its a new year it may be time to think of reconnecting with my family (she used to get on so well with them all). She replied that may be we need to sort 'us' out first, ouch! Lovethehub thank you also for your feedback, it was just the way she had commented on something that made me think that ( i am good at mind reading ). I do totally agree with you that if she has felt like that for years then it will take a lot of time to build that trust back up and i have no doubt she is afraid to take the next step. I have some real concerns right now that my wife is in a really bad place (personally) and i so hope she can figure her own way out of it. The woman i see now is nothing like the beautiful caring woman i once knew and want back. These are her issues though and whilst i am willing to do all i can to help she needs to ask, in the meantime continue to GAL - registered for a marathon yesterday on the 6th April so this should keep me busy
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Me: 39 W: 33 Son:7 Daughter:4 Its Over: March 7th 2013 Moved back home Mid June, trying to make it work
). I do totally agree with you that if she has felt like that for years then it will take a lot of time to build that trust back up and i have no doubt she is afraid to take the next step. I have some real concerns right now that my wife is in a really bad place (personally) and i so hope she can figure her own way out of it. The woman i see now is nothing like the beautiful caring woman i once knew and want back. These are her issues though and whilst i am willing to do all i can to help she needs to ask, in the meantime continue to GAL - registered for a marathon yesterday on the 6th April so this should keep me busy 