Do you mean she's surprised that you haven't continued to pursue her sexually and she appreciates that or resents it? How else would she describe your relationship? How would she describe you? If she had to rate her marital satisfaction on a 10 point scale how would she rate it?

How would she describe how you feel about her?

Is she aware of the pain the celibacy inflicts and if so how does she feel about it?

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015