not as scared or confused. . still hopeful (II)

[bluesgal]

Oh Julie-I feel for you. I can relate to many of these things. I wish you had friends/family closer to you for support. Sometimes when I read these posts and hear others talking about discussions with their H, it blows my mind. Some will say that certain behaviors hurt their feelings and their H seem to respond. You and I have been in the same boat as far as the angry spouse.

I can relate to not being able to have a discussion. I cannot talk to H about anything important. He gets immediately stressed which equals anger and then the ball starts rolling. His other response is complete avoidance. Avoiding discussions, problems, the elephant in the room.

You need to be able to protect yourself. I wish I could give you advice instead of just support. A puppy??? What??? More responsibility and family member to care for when he's bailing on what he already has? I just don't understand the WAS.

I would guess that you don't want to sit around and wait for the other shoe to drop and you also don't want to anger him with a serious conversation that may push you and S further away.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that he wasn't always this inconsiderate with his decisions?

BTW-How is his alcohol abstinence going?

Hope you get some good advice on this