I asked my Divorcebusting coach whether I should tell my family and friends and she asked me what my intention was for the relationship. I told her that ideally I hoped we could get through this and work it out. So, it made me think about how to respond to people...
I didn't tell my family we separated but we're close and they could definitely tell I wasn't being the same "me". I just told them husband and I are having some issues we're working through right now, he's depressed because of work, etc.
After six months, I told my parents that he moved in with a friend but they still don't know about the affair or that he moved in with OW.
If we ever do get back together, that would be so incredibly tough for both sides to have to deal with and overcome. I feel that until I know for sure, I don't need to divulge everything and even later, it's ultimately up to me what I want to share about my very personal situation.
I live out of state, so that definitely changes the dynamics as well. My friends back home have NO idea what's going on.
Just go within and give it some thought before you act...to have a sense that you're at peace with it (whatever you decide to do).
