When WAs Come Home (Where do we go from here?)

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We did some of the questionare but not all of it. When I looked at his sheet he prioritized: 1) spiritual connection with partner 2)independence/freedom/autonomy 3) financial support 4)an attractive spouse 5)sexual fulfillment

Nik,

If I remember correctly spirital connection and independence were not on that questionare, of course I could be wrong. The one I have is from Willard F. Harley Jr.

Anyway if this is true he came up with those on his own. Cna you give us more insight into his spirituality and the way he like independence and freedom. I am looking more toward the spirituality because the freedom stuff could be alien, you would know better.

How are you and your H spiritiually? Do you have similuar or diverging views on this? What is your spiritual relationship like?

Also it would help if you could spell out a list of the things you do to meet those needs above, and another with what you think your husband wants when he says those are his needs. It will take some guessing, but you are the one who knows him best.

One tip on teh independence/freedom thing. My W really needs this right now. I am actually letting her dictate when we see each other and do things. I sometimes make suggestions, but NEVER demands. Take a read about my night I posted earlier. I handled it in a way that made it her deal that she missed dinner and came home late, and nothing about me as I went on with my life and was only loving and caring. This had a big reaction from her and I can even tell she is feeling bad about it and doing some stuff to make it up to me. The more we get upset about them not being with us the more they want to be away.

I wish I could at least have this discussion with my W, I've put my needs on hold for now and wish she knew them.