I think KML, Wonka and I are all on the same page. Put the burden on him to tell you exactly what he is missing. If it's the ties or the boots, then advise him that son is using them and then it's up to him to contact son about them.
I agree w/KML that he may not even know what he thinks he's missing, but is using this as an excuse to bug you right now. Keep in mind, he's not happy and he doesn't want to see you happy either. But, if you do give him things, be sure to keep a list and take photos. Sometimes they do forget that you've already given them things or that they've tossed the items out themselves.
WR, make him tell you what is missing....don't help him. If it is truly something that is missing, then it might be still in the house, but who knows what he's missing.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
