Well, Angela no one can fault your for NOT trusting right now under the circumstances. You can't control the anxiety and lack of trust, but you can control how you act on it, right?
So... it sounds like in a sense you already know this. You just needed someone to nod and agree.
In a way the "I don't have a lot of money in my account" and "I went out to sell some stuff" actually come together to build a fairly credible story to someone looking at this situation from the outside. He saw he was short on money and decided he should go out and try and fix that. Seems straightforward enough.
And the "I didn't have as much money in my account as I thought I did" happens to ALL of us at some point, doesn't it? So imagine how easily it can happen to an MLCer who is more prone to confusion, lack of attention, and irresponsibility than the average adult. (Not bringing home the bag is pretty typical MLC behavior too... they may need that sense that they can still "get away" if they need to. That they are not trapped back into the home situation until they are fully comfortable with being there).
Whether he is still doing some OW related behaviors or not, does that change what you want or intend to do for the immediate future?
Don't let your head go to that "I'll never trust him place" ...it does no good to try and anticipate your future potential for trust on his CURRENT actions. Of course you can't trust THAT guy, he's still kind of a nut. But with luck he is not the guy who you will get back and that new guy may be willing to put in the hard work to earn your trust back. You can't know for sure yet, but maybe try to give him the benefit of the doubt in the meantime?
Get off the cycle and go do your running to clear your head.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
