Look what the cat dragged in! (TL) - Act 3

[tigerlily78]

Good luck to you too Bright.

So it's been a few days since I posted. I figured I should check in and let everyone know I am still alive and doing fine.

FINALLY got both "Divorce Busting" and "Divorce Remedy." I ordered them with a giftcard I got for Christmas along with 3 or 4 other relationship/marriage/communication books that various DB friends have recommended. So I have plenty to read and process now to help keep me busy.

Been pretty quiet around here. I have just been doing my own thing and giving space... nearly no contact really.

Today H came downstairs and literally said, "I'm sorry for being in such a good mood today. I don't know why I am."

He took some time to play with the cats and show them some affection. Also made a very deliberate attempt to show our son he was interested in what he was doing/building in a game, and mentioned that he was really looking forward to working with son on a programming project soon.

He asked he we had eaten lunch and I said I wasn't really hungry yet and son had made himself a sandwich. H asks son about his sandwich... did he toast the bread, cut it into triangles, etc? H kidded with him a little about how he was "doing it wrong" because he didn't cut the sandwich into triangles before he ate it. Son thought that was pretty funny. H then proceeds to tell son that is is awesome that he is making himself lunch now and that he is very proud of him.

I was sitting in the other room reading while he said this, which was lucky, because the "proud" comment made me tear up a little.

I sent H an email later in the day to just let him know, that his positive interactions with son today seemed to have a really good effect on son's attitude this afternoon. And that I thought it was really great that he told son he was proud, that so many Dads never express that and it means a lot to kids to hear it. Good work.

I hope it won't come across as pursuing. I was going for a "WoA" to recognize the positives.