I think there is always hope. I too have asked my W to fill out the emotional needs questionare, but as of yet she hasn't. I have only brought up once, but its here on the coffee table for her to fill out. I hope she does sometime, because I have mine done and think it would lead to good discussion.
For your perticulat sitch, if your H is able to say you do things enough, but not the way he likes it, then he must know what he would like. Wait for him to complete it and come to you with it. He is probably taking some time to think about how he really wants his needs met by you. Remember we have been pining over things like this for sometime and are really aware of our unmet needs by our WAs because they became appearant when they left.
Give him some time to think about it. He's a man and will want to come up with solutions to fix it if he is really going to work at the marriage. Let him come up with the concrete methods you need to meet his needs, and then get to work.
I hope it leads to a good discussion between you to, keep us up to date on how it work (good and bad) because I am looking forward eventually to that discussion with my W.
God Bless You,
Reuben
Cautiously hopeful and keeping the Momentum
