What a great thread. My WAS came home 6 weeks ago. I see the distance in his eyes. We are not emotionally connected like we should be. I know I need to be patient but I also know I want a great M and H knows that's what I want to.
Nothing major to report. We have been going thru the normal daily routine. I asked H if he would fill out the emotional needs questionare from the marriage builders website. I 1st asked him 3 weeks ago and then dropped it. So this time when I asked him he actually did it or at least part of it. H said he needs to finish it and then we can go over it tomorrow.
Well, I did take a quick peak at his. Yes, I know I shouldn't have. The jist of what he wrote so far is that I do things enough but not the way he wants it. Re: sex, housework, conversation, pretty much EVERYTHING. H has not filled out the narritive part of what I could do to meet this need better. I hope he will fill that part out.
One thing about my H is that he relies heavily on his feelings. H is not concrete about what we can do to make things better so nothing changes. I am doing my best to try to meet his needs. Have read the 5 LL, DB, DR, etc....
I am really at a loss as to whether we will succeed to having a Great M or a D.
I know that the only way he will love me again is if his needs are being met but will he be able to tell me what those needs are????
