I'm finding the other disadvantage of H being at home is cake eating. There is no reality of what life would be like if we were D. There are no consequences to H bad behavior right now. His house is clean, bills paid, kids cared for, family supper every night. He can tuck the kids in...then go "for a ride" for 5 hours and visit his A partner. All while I do everything, then sleep alone. Really, I don't see true advantages to either side.
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014
