Final phase of losing wife?

[melissag]

kenva, I am new to your sitch, so I don't know the whole background, just noticed you are going through a hard time.

When is enough enough and u completely stop DB? It's been 2 and 1/2 years w this. I don't know how much more humility I can take. People close to me and to her tell me I am a saint for doing this. My thinking is a divorce is a divorce. All ties are cut except our s.

What would stopping DB look like to you? When I get frustrated and want to throw in the towel with DBing, I think - but what would I change? To me, DBing is being the person I want to be, so I would change nothing. If you are tired of this, you could go more dim, is that what you are thinking of?

I'm sorry about your FIL. I am sure this is difficult on everyone, in an already difficult situation. It is kind of you to be there for your W despite what you are going through right now. Make sure you take good care of yourself, too.