When WAs Come Home (Where do we go from here?)

[Jamesjohn]

My hope at this point is that she will lessen this as we grow stronger in our M

This seems to be the way it usually goes.

I went round and round with my wife about this "new friend" deal. This was a cheeseless tunnel, as the more I let it bother me, the more she would fight me on it, and keep going out with them. At times, it seemed to almost be just to spite me!

I finally got tired of fighting about it, and tried to put my insecurities about our R off to the side. I "acted as if" I really did trust her. I didn't trust all of her "friends", though, especially the guys, but I did trust her. Even told her that a time or 2.

From there, I tried to concentrate on building up our R, instead of focusing on tearing down her relationship with any others. Most of these other relationships self-destructed on their own, without my intervention. After just a short while, she got tired of some of the new gang, and some of the others proved that "they" couldn't be trusted by her.

Eventually, doing stuff with me, or just staying home, were better options for her in her own eyes. The new friends just seemed to fade off into the sunset, and some of our old friends started coming back into the picture.